If you are new to the cigar scene and are unfamiliar with the dynamic and social settings of a gentlemen’s (or woman’s) cigar bar and lounge this article is for you.

Conversely, if you think you are familiar with the happenings and social dynamics of a cigar bar you might get a good laugh as the ‘do not’s’ on this list might be something you see all too much of.

Without further ado, here are nine things to keep in mind when you are kicking back and enjoying yourself at your local cigar lounge.

Mind your ash

You have probably picked up somewhere that a good cigar will create a stiff ash of up to two to three inches. Unbeknownst to many, the quality of your cigar is not affected by the length of the ash so it is not your obligation to maintain an ash that could rival a witch’s broomstick. Good etiquette would be to be aware of where ashtrays are at all times. Ash on the floor, on your blazer and in the chair is not going to make you any friends. Not good ones at least.

Restrict your conversation to your party

A cigar lounge is a place where patrons come to kick back and relax after a long day of work, not be badgered with loud jabbering. As funny of a guy that you might be, it is not likely that the lounge patrons want to hear your latest ‘who’s on first’ rendition. While socializing with the other patrons is acceptable, inside voices are greatly appreciated. 

Keep it classy

Keeping it classy can cover many facets of cigar etiquette. In regards to clothing, your Sunday best is not required but you should probably change out of the “I just cut my grass” attire before entering the lounge. Dress codes at cigar bars are not generally enforced, but the unspoken laws of properly groomed and well-dressed men and women make the experience more enjoyable for everyone.

Strive for intelligent discussion

It is a commonly known fact that people who smoke cigars are of above-average intelligence. Or maybe it is just that smoking makes you sit still long enough to get deep in thought. Being the smart individuals that we are, we know that conversations of religion, politics or income are not the most ideal topics amongst friends or strangers.  As intelligently as those topics can be discussed, they tend to bring out the worst in people.

Don’t block the tube

Most cigar bars have one or more televisions scattered around the joint. This is often a focal point for the patrons who go to watch sports, the news, or whatever entertainment is on the tube. The only rule with the TV… don’t block it. Be mindful of others and try not to prevent your fellow patrons’ pleasurable viewing experiences. 

Leave the smoke/drinks in the lounge

One of the coolest things about the cigar bar is actually being able to smoke indoors. However, most lounges keep their selection of cigars in a closed humidor room and do not welcome your smoke in that particular area. NEVER walk into the humidor with a cigar or beverage. The smoke from your stick can alter the flavor of aging cigars and accidentally spilling your drink could mean you might be responsible for some cigars you did not plan on buying.

Be mindful of the ladies

Understanding that most cigar lounges are predominately male it is easy to get into conversations that don’t take into consideration members of the opposite sex. When you are at the cigar lounge be aware of who is around and understand that ladies should not feel uncomfortable or excluded from the social environment. Do your best to maintain appropriate conversation when the fairer sex is around and include them in conversation.

Never bring your own cigars

Bringing your own cigar to a cigar lounge is like bringing a cooler full of beer to the bar. Not only is it rude but it is downright silly. With the exception of clubs that allow members to bring their own cigars, stay classy, and leave your cigars at home.

Take your calls outside

Although we are all proud that you are the next Gordon Gekko, holding your phone call in the cigar bar is adolescent. The patrons of a cigar bar come to relax and enjoy each other’s company, not listen to you tell the dude on the other line that ‘greed is good.’